Dinosaurs became extinct because
nobody caressed them. (Anonymous)
Desire is expressed through a caress,just as a
thought is through language. (JP Sartre)
The caress is Love that flows through your fingers.
A caress is a kiss, it is a deep breath that
connects a Mother to a Son.
The caress externalizes what we feel inside and
makes palpable the immateriality of our soul.
Sometimes humans use this gesture with superficiality
while it is highly valuable and meaningful to
the baby and the dog. The caress is so important
that each stroke takes on a different meaning
depending on where and how it is applied on the
I dare say that it is emblematic of oneself.
A little hesitant hand, when accompanied by a
smile framed by cheeks red with emotion, declares
benevolence and respect. The same is true when
a hesitantlittle snout captures the scent of a
new baby by slowly getting closer to learn the
new smell and blend it with its own.The blending
of two bodies’fragrances into one attest
to a trusting relationship.
The caress is the mother of noble intentions,
of unexpected feelings that seal social pacts.
The caress is not a simple word, but the awakening
of what we conceal deepin our heart.
It is our inner feelings coming into the open.
Through the caress the innocent child and the
dog in its simplicity, theyinitiate a familiarity
that will live based on sincerity.
The caress is born when the baby comes into
Welcoming him into her arms, Momcannot help but
run her hand on that creature who hasan unbreakable
bond with her
Those delicate strokes on of the entire little
body tell him ‘I'm here ... do you recognize
me? ... we spent nine months together talking,
sleeping, eating; we were always together but
something prevented us to complete ourselves...
now that veil is gone and we are finally tightly
close to each other, free to hear the words from
our hearts through ''this magic touch ''
The caress is born at a time when the puppy
comes into the world.
After slitting the birth-sac that surrounds him,
Mom cleans and warms her little creature, by licking
it. The puppy greets life trough those kisses,
by the contact with Mom’s warm and soft
To the puppy, mother’s tongue is like our
hand that assists and caresses; not having hands
like us, animals do not have any other way but
the tongue to caress. in fact, in many other situations
we recognize the similarities of theirbehaviour.
This type of caring allows for a balanced developmental
Caresses, hugs and caring attentions allow a
continuous strengthening of the bond between Mother
and the new-born. While the embrace blends their
smells and reinforce the bond ever more, the caresses’gentle
massage enchants their bodies
There are two types of caresses
The caress belongs to hand-language; a language
that replaces words very well and therefore it
is understood by those who still don’t have
Essential for social contact, caresses expressreciprocal
consideration and passion and just as whoever
“declares”them, he is also likewise
returning them in kind.
The fascinating aspect of a caress is that it
cannot hide a lie because the state of mind comes
across with its touch.
The gesture of the caress has slight expressive
differencesamong different animal species, with
nuances that can make interpreting one feeling
instead of another one.
We do not mean so much as the time when contact
is made but of the becoming close of the two ''beings
''engaged in the contact.
For humans, to lay a hand on the head of a dog
with the palm down,same as placing it on a friend’s
shoulder, it symbolizes a benevolent act and if
directed to a child, it definitely conveys affection
and protection; this gesture is a bit like a priest
blessing his congregation. For a dog, however,
it takes on a different meaning depending on the
mood, the situation and the familiarity between
him and the person who would like to caress him.
It is said: the caress is the simplest and most
sincere way to get acquainted.
For humans there is the handshake; for the dog
first come the sniffingand second the confidence
of a caress. That’s it, perhaps “confidence”
might just be the right word to explain the importance
of this gesture.
The palm on the head is for the dog an act that
imposes domination or protects while a palm proffered
facing up is a demand or an offer.
For a dog the mouth is like a hand:the mother’s
hand which caresses us.
For puppies the Mother's hand is her tongue.
Dogs caressand clean with the tongue exactly the
same way people do with their hands.
According to the Dog a hand with the palm towards
itsfurcould very well be a mouth thatcan grabs
or bite and therefore it is normal for the dog
to be a bit diffident at first. However, once
the dog becomes comfortable with the person who
bestows that gesture, he can also derive a pleasant
and positive experience from it.
However, the dog is not afraid of a hand with
the palm facing up because he sees it as a little
bowl that could be full of good things or that
asks to be filled with goodies.
The caresses of Mother to Son give peace, love,
protection, education and balance.
There is ample evidence that a child who was
not spared such attentions will show a well balanced
behaviour while growing up.
Through the caress, a child in his purity
and a dog in its simplicity,
will initiate a knowledge based in sincerity
The caress is the intimate gesture that needs
The caress introduces and acquaints one another
with reciprocal respect.
The caress’ expressive form of teaching,
personally and collectively, tests the sociability
of those performing the gesture, educating and
promoting them into life.
From: the book: A Te -
Educazione Naturale - Progetto
Scuola Ambiente di Barbara Tullio
e Paolo Caldora